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January 10, 2018

Why rest is so important

By the end of 2017, I felt sluggish, run down and I couldn’t understand where my energy had gone.

And then I remembered: I have a child, a house to look after, oh.. and I also work full time to a job I commute to.

My life consisted of work, train, pick my son up from nursery, bath, bed, cook, tidy, clean and then sleep. Repeat. On an average day, I had 45 minutes of time to myself.

I was burning myself out.

I’ve always been the type of person who likes to make the most of any free time. Or being entirely honest, I feel guilty when I’m not doing something and that somehow I’ll be punished for lazing about. My Dad grew up in a poor background and became successful through hard work. I think that narrative seeped into my psyche and I have a fear around what might working happen if I took my foot off the pedal.

The irony is, instead of thinking about what might happen if I took a break; I should be thinking about what might happen if I don’t…

Rest is crucial.

Always ‘on’ culture

The connectivity of modern life means we’re always available and always on. Plus the heavily curated nature of Instagram and Facebook help to fuel the idea that we should be doing something at all times. We need content to be able to show how busy we are.

We’re also told that anything is possible with hard work. I do believe there’s some truth in that; as in it’s difficult to be successful without hard work. However, not at the expense of everything else.

We need to stop fuelling the idea that resting isn’t really necessary and success only happens by pushing yourself to your limits. This is why so many people feel burnt out.

Always ‘on’ culture

The connectivity of modern life means we’re always available and always on. Plus the heavily curated nature of Instagram and Facebook help to fuel the idea that we should be doing something at all times. We need content to be able to show how busy we are.

We’re also told that anything is possible with hard work. I do believe there’s some truth in that; as in it’s difficult to be successful without hard work. However, not at the expense of everything else.

We need to stop fuelling the idea that resting isn’t really necessary and success only happens by pushing yourself to your limits. This is why so many people feel burnt out.

Why do we need to rest? 

Rest is fundamentally important. As any athlete knows, our bodies need rest to repair itself and so our minds should be no different. We need to make sure we’re giving ourselves permission to switch off for a while and recuperate.

Rest gives us a break

Most people have experienced feeling frazzled by a piece of work; looking at it again the next day with fresh eyes helps provide greater clarity on what to do next. That’s exactly what rest does for us – it gives us a break. It helps us make better decisions(rather than operating in brain fog); have better relationships(rather than being snappy and over sensitive); have more energywhen spending time with our children / families; and helps us have empathy for othersbecause we have more to give.

Joshua Becker from Becoming Minamalist suggests we have one day a week dedicated to resting. For those of us with caring responsibilities and/or full-time jobs, a day of rest may not exactly be practical (although I can dream…). However, I fully agree with the principle that we don’t need to have our foot on the accelerator all the time.

We all need to be factoring in rest time.

Rest as an act of self-care

One of the greatest acts of self-care is to give ourselves permission to rest. We need to understand we’re important too. So please, go read a book, watch a TV drama, light a candle and/or run a bath.

Give yourself a break.

5 things I’m doing to make sure I rest

  1. Recognise I don’t need to do everything right away. The world won’t end if I don’t empty the dishwasher that evening. Plus I have a husband who can equally contribute to household tasks.
  2. Dedicate two evenings a week to relaxing and doing something I enjoy. Run a bath, watch TV, read a book, listen to a podcast etc.
  3. Switch off from social media. I can waste hours looking at Facebook and Instagram looking at people’s lives. It serves me no real purpose and doesn’t contribute to feelings of self-worth.
  4. Understand that saying ‘no’ isn’t being selfish. There is a saying ‘you can’t pour from an empty well’ and I need to remember it.
  5. Simply slow down.

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