A few years ago, it felt like Marie Kondo was everywhere talking about her KonMari method of tidying. I read a couple of articles and watched some YouTube videos showing how to fold clothes and left it at that.
By nature, I’m reasonably tidy and like everything to have a home. However, my life has changed from being a single person to having a husband and child. My living space has grown with it but I feel every surface is covered in piles of clutter. Our house has become so much of a dumping ground, it’s actually hard to open the front door because of the assortment of coats and shoes blocking the way (sadly not a joke).
I saw Tidying up with Marie Kondo whilst scrolling through Netflix. As I love to watch people go on a ‘personal journey’, I thought this would be a programme for me. I was right.
The first episode focuses on the Friend family. The Friends are a married couple with two young kids, busy lives and cupboards bursting at the seams. The parents are frazzled, snappy and life feels a bit disorganised – pretty much the universal experience of anyone with a young family.
Keep only those things that speak to your heart.Marie Kondo
Marie Kondo comes to their home and gently teaches them how to organise their lives better. It’s less about tidying and decluttering but more about learning how to go through your possessions and storing the things you love in a systematic way.
The five lessons I learnt from Tidying up with Marie Kondo are:
- Pay gratitude to your home. It’s so easy to just view your house as a mess but it’s something to feel truly grateful for. It’s where you are raising a family, it’s giving you warmth and shelter, and is helping you build a life.
- Organise by category. Marie Kondo suggests you organise by category and not by room. I tend to tackle decluttering room by room but this doesn’t give you the full overview of what you really have.
- Declutter in order of clothes, books, paperwork, kitchen/bathroom/garage/shed and sentimental. I think she suggests sentimental last so that you are more invested in the process and less emotional about belongings. This makes complete sense.
- Hold each item to see if it brings you joy and thank it for its use. I have a tendency to hold on to clothes in the hope that I shrink back into them. Marie Kondo taught me to thank them for their use and let them go. Let’s be honest, keeping items of clothing to body shame myself with is not sparking joy.
- Use drawers and boxes to store items. Anyone else have a cupboard of doom? Marie Kondo advises storing miscellaneous items in storage boxes. It makes much more sense to organise things into smaller boxes so you can see what’s in drawers and cupboards instead of shoving it all in and closing the door.
Marie Kondo has definitely given me a bit of a kick to start sorting out our home. There is a box of old Christmas decorations sitting in our spare room since we got them down from the loft with a lot of old rubbish in there. Before watching Tidying up with Marie Kondo, I would have left all the old Christmas decorations in there and piled the new ones on top – after all, they will be up in the loft where I can’t see them. However, I feel inspired to go through everything thoughtfully: all the old unwanted Christmas decorations can go with thanks and we will hold on to the ones that spark joy.