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How to silence your inner critic

August 17, 2019
How to silence your inner critic

Do you have an inner critic? I’m far too busy judging myself to worry about judging you. Quite often (and generally in a work context), I will be talking out loud and a voice will start in my head saying, ‘stop, you sound ridiculous, Just stop before you embarrass yourself any further’. This voice tells me I look too fat in my clothes, that I’m ageing and wrinkled.…

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Why we need to practice self-compassion

June 26, 2019
self-compassion and why you need to practice it

Ever ruminate over something you said, which you could have said better? Or beat yourself up over how you could have dealt with a situation differently?  Do you tell yourself you should be further ahead than you are? Be more confident/quick-witted/have the body of a 20 year-old when in reality you’re 44?*  *I appreciate the last one might just be me…  Well, it sounds like you need to…

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How to practice gratitude

May 6, 2019
how to practice gratitude

Gratitude practice changed my life I’ve previously about how gratitude practice changed my life. It turned me from perpetually being a ‘grey sky thinker’ to seeing the positives in life. I had gone through life feeling like the odds were stacked against me.  Good fortune and luck were things that happened to other people. I was great at seeing the negatives in any situation which helped back up…

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Why self-doubt isn’t always a bad thing: turning our negative patterns around

April 15, 2019
why self-doubt isn't always a bad thing

It might seem bizarre that I’m writing about why self-doubt isn’t always a bad thing given that it’s plagued me my whole life. Self-doubt has affected my decision-making, stopped me from pursuing potential opportunities and held me back no end. I spend a considerable amount of time second-guessing myself and overthinking to the point that it can be exhausting. I’d like to give you a happy ending here…

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Are you suffering from imposter syndrome?

March 17, 2019
are you suffering from impostor syndrome?

A few years ago I got promoted at work. Despite being more than qualified, I spent the first year waiting to be pulled into a meeting room and told, ‘we’ve made a terrible mistake’. I lived in a state of panic and regardless of any positive feedback, I still couldn’t relax and enjoy my new role. My experience is not uncommon. I’ve heard of chief executives googling how…

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The pre-mortem technique (and how I use it on my overthinking brain)

February 17, 2019
The pre-mortem technique and how I use it on my overthinking brain

I recently went on a leadership training course with work. Admittedly, we did one exerciseabout how to evacuate a village, but the rest of the time was spent on management skills and decision-making abilities. This is where I learnt the pre-mortem technique. What is a pre-mortem? A pre-mortem is opposite of a post-mortem – where you look to see what went wrong after the event. With a post-mortem…

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Science behind habits and how to form new ones

January 13, 2019

The biggest myth of habit-forming is that its down to willpower. Actually, habits are created by repetition. This is the science behind habits and how they’re created by our neural pathways. The language of habits As someone who has always been more of a fan of instant gratification rather than working towards something, I’ve always assumed I lack enough willpower to get into good habits. I’ve told myself…

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Kindsight and why you need it

January 9, 2019
benefits of kindsight

Ever spent hours ruminating over something you said and wished you’d used different words? Or do you look back at the past with regret at something you did with the hope you could turn back time? It sounds like you could do with some kindsight. What is kindsight? Kindsight is the practice of looking at the past in a much gentler way. It suggests you reflect upon events…

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Setting intentions with kindness

December 22, 2018

It’s time for self-talk with kindness At the beginning of the year, I wrote a post about setting intentions. They were areas I wanted to achieve, not actual resolutions per se, but a kinder, intentional approach that I would use as a focus and not beat myself up about. Reader, I lied. I did everything I said I wouldn’t . I’ve been writing my resolutions/intentions for years now.…

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Change when you don’t like change

November 18, 2018
Change when you don't like change

In my professional life, I work in change communications. I help organisations move their employees through a change process often involving a new way of working. Yet, ironically when it comes to my personal life, a change agent I am not. I don’t like change and my tendency to overthink means I can struggle with indecision even when it comes to the smallest things. I worry about the outcomes…

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The trap of right/wrong thinking

July 22, 2018

An energy healer recently said to me that I was doing a lot of right/wrong thinking. I had explained I was struggling with indecision to the point I felt stuck. I was struggling to make almost any major decisions – feeling paralysed by the idea of it turning out badly. I had fallen into the trap of right/wrong thinking Right/wrong thinking is a thought process where you think…

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Working with the lunar cycle

July 11, 2018

The moon is responsible for lighting at the night’s sky, as well as the earth’s water. The moon’s gravitational force pulls on water in the oceans and creates tides. Spiritually, the moon looks after our emotions: controlling our desires, worries and dreams.  It’s said that as our bodies are made up of 85% water, the gravitational pull of the moon and the lunar cycle affects us too. The moon goes…

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How to form good habits

June 23, 2018
form good habits

I’m the patron saint of good intentions. I have lots of ideas and plans, which tend to fall by the wayside. The reason: I haven’t got into good habits. It’s easy to stick to bad habits and harder to take on new behaviours. Our brain has learnt patterns and likes to stick with what it knows. The good news is, there is a process to all this. We…

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Six ways to boost your confidence (that actually work)

June 21, 2018
confidence boosting ideas

The biggest thing I wish I’d known in my 20s is that confidence is something you develop; rather than being a permanent effect of your life situation. I spent far too much time feeling restricted and paralysed by my lack of confidence often to the point of just giving up. I constantly compared myself to others – especially those who seemed so much more confident and thought opportunities…

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Learning to be brave

May 8, 2018
Learning to be brave

Being brave At the beginning of the year, I thought about changes I wanted to make in my life and to stop letting fear stand in my way. I realised I was going to need to start becoming brave if I was going to live a more authentic life. Part of transitioning from my 20s into my 30s and beyond has been to recognise that actions have consequences and…

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Why I practice gratitude

April 11, 2018
why I practice gratitude

I first started my gratitude practice about five years ago. I’d got stuck in a bit of rut, tended to focus on the negative and had a blamey attitude. I got frustrated easily and often felt like the world was conspiring against me. I decided to keep a gratitude diary and each morning wrote down ten things that were making me happy and the reasons why. It completely…

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Six ways to help step out of your comfort zone

April 3, 2018

“What if I Fall, Oh but my darling what if you fly.” – Erin Hanson Comfort zones can be magical places keeping us safe and secure. There are times though when we know we’re capable of more and it’s time to step out and reach our potential. How to move out of your comfort zone. Think about what would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail. It’s easy to dismiss…

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Letting go of limiting beliefs

March 31, 2018

After my Dad died, it hit me how life was short and I shouldn’t let anything stop me from living my dreams. My Dad had retired at 55 and spent the next 12 years of his life working as a walking guide across Europe. He took a chance – admittedly one with a final salary pension – and lived the rest of his days doing something he loved.…

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The power of daydreaming

March 28, 2018

“Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” Edgar Allan Poe I’ve always been a daydreamer. Time passes me by before I startle realising that I’ve been lost in my own thoughts. I daydream about all sorts of things. I have ideas about the future and how conversations might go. I think about my dream house and how…