Let go of limiting beliefs

March 31, 2018

Letting limiting beliefs take over

After my Dad died, it hit me how life was short and I shouldn’t let anything stop me from living my dreams. My Dad had retired at 55 and spent the next 12 years of his life working as a walking guide across Europe. He took a chance (admittedly one with a final salary pension) and lived the rest of his days doing something he loved. 18 months have now passed and with the initial rawness of grief subsiding, I can tell my feelings of carpe diem are subsiding too. I’m slipping back into old habits of admiring people who are making exciting life changes, whilst telling myself inwardly, I could never do something like that and letting my limiting beliefs take over.

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are essentially negative beliefs we have about ourselves, which holds us back in some way. Our limiting beliefs can hold us back from seeing opportunities or changing from our present circumstances. I actually only heard the phrase ‘limiting beliefs’ a few years ago and it made me realise how many times I’d held myself back because I’d decided I wasn’t good enough. I recognised there were situations I’d self-sabotaged or left unchanged all due to this narrative in my head.

One of the frustrating things about these types of beliefs is that most of the time they’re just not true. They tend to be built from events in the past, which we then use to dictate our decision-making. Our ego likes to be right and limiting beliefs in a sense protect us from stepping out and doing something new. How often have we heard our friends use self-depreciating language and think, that is so far from reality? We’re just not so good at saying it about ourselves.

Let go of limiting beliefs

I’ve read up a lot on limiting beliefs with the aim of finding a magic wand to eliminate them. There are a lot of different approaches from therapy to understand where the beliefs started, reminding yourself of past successes and/or using affirmation cards to change neural pathways and get into better habits with thinking patterns.

What I’ve found to help is to become more aware of what those beliefs are and identify them in my thought processes. Every time I notice I’m telling myself, ‘you’re not good enough’ or ‘you don’t deserve this’, I try and recognise that it’s just a limiting belief – and not necessarily the truth. I find my actions change as a result.

I’m 43 years old so I’ve had a long time to build up limiting beliefs. I don’t think they will change overnight. However, becoming more aware of their existence is enabling me to consciously change old patterns. And that feels like a real step in the right direction.


The power of daydreaming

March 28, 2018
power behind daydreaming

“Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” Edgar Allan Poe

I’ve always been a daydreamer. Time passes me by before I startle realising that I’ve been lost in my own thoughts. I daydream about all sorts of things. I have ideas about the future and how conversations might go. I think about my dream house and how I want to decorate it. I imagine myself in a shared workspace typing away in a new environment. And I daydream about my little boy and all the changes he will go through in life.

Science behind daydreaming

It turns out, my levels of daydreaming aren’t particularly unusual. According to a Harvard University study, the average person daydreams for approximately half of their waking hours. This seems an incredible amount of time even for a committed daydreamer like me and suggests our minds are wandering even when we’re not consciously aware of it.

The Harvard University researchers looked in detail at the correlation between daydreaming and creative problem-solving. They gave 145 students a creative task where they had two minutes to list as many potential uses for everyday objects such as clothes hangers. They were then split into four different groups. Three groups were given a 12-minute break consisting of either resting in a quiet room, performing a difficult short-term memory task, or conducting a task so boring it would allow their minds to wander. The final control group had no break at all.

Each group was then asked to repeat the earlier task of thinking of as many additional uses to the items they had been exposed to. The students who had been given the chance to daydream thought of 41% more uses for these everyday items than the other three groups. However, where students were shown new items (ie, ones they hadn’t seen earlier), they all performed similarly.

The research seems to indicate the group who had 12 minutes of daydreaming time invented more possibilities for these everyday items because they had space to let their subconscious take over. Their minds were given the time to mull over the problem and come up with new solutions. This is why the effect was limited to those items that the subjects had previously been asked about. It seems that by taking our minds away from a task, we are freeing up our subconscious and giving it the chance to come up with new ideas. There is power behind our daydreaming.

The Cognitive Neuroscience of Thought Laboratory at the University of British Columbia studies the subconscious part of the brain. Scientists at UBC feel that daydreaming is part of a creative thinking process, which gives us the eureka moments that analytical thinking can’t. Our logical and analytical thought process tend to base decision-making on past experience and risk assessments. Our creative side looks for new ideas and possibilities and shouldn’t be ignored.

Power behind daydreaming

For me, daydreaming offers an insight into my subconscious. I sometimes let my limiting beliefs take over and use my logical brain to stop myself from doing things. I’m good at putting barriers in the way. I use my past experiences to convince myself my ideas are unachievable and I should be happy with what I have. My daydreams are telling me a different story though. They’re showing me what I really want and maybe it’s time to turn those thoughts into action. This is the power behind daydreaming.


31 January 2018 and the super blood blue moon

January 29, 2018
Super blood blue moon

What is a super blood blue moon?

On 31 January, there will be a lunar eclipse, which is the second one of the month.

This one is going to be particularly special because not only will there be an eclipse, there will also be a super moon (which happens when the full moon is closest to the earth), a blue moon (because it’s the second full moon of the month, which doesn’t happen often) and a blood moon (because when the moon passes behind the earth, it looks a reddish colour).

A super blood blue moon is quite rare and so is particularly significant.

What does the super blood blue moon mean for me?

Eclipses often bring turning points in our lives. They illuminate areas we may need to concentrate on and can bring about huge changes and transformations in our life.

They are often linked together and form part of a journey. This super blood blue moon eclipse links back to 2017 and the eclipses in February and August.

It’s worth trying to reflect on our feelings and emotions during 22 August 2017 because whatever happened then, is now going to be worked out and put behind us.

This super blood moon offers healing and the start of a new sixth-month chapter. To this, we need to let go of any negative thoughts and emotions. We need to forgive ourselves and any others so we can move forward and manifest the life we want.

Use 31 January to:

  • let go of negative thoughts about yourself and others
  • write down what you want to happen over the next six months
  • trust, whatever happens, is going to be the best thing for you

Or you might like to try this releasing ritual from Forever Conscious

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