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How to find your purpose (and make your soul sing)

August 20, 2019
How to find your purpose (and make your soul sing)

Feeling lost and drifting  Three years ago (not quite to the day) I went on maternity leave for a year. This was the longest time I’d ever been away from work and I felt it would be a good time to think about what I really wanted from life. I gave myself two objectives: one (and obviously the most critical) to nurture my son; and secondly to use…

mind

How to silence your inner critic

August 17, 2019
How to silence your inner critic

Do you have an inner critic? I’m far too busy judging myself to worry about judging you. Quite often (and generally in a work context), I will be talking out loud and a voice will start in my head saying, ‘stop, you sound ridiculous, Just stop before you embarrass yourself any further’. This voice tells me I look too fat in my clothes, that I’m ageing and wrinkled.…

wellbeing

What is resilience (and why do you need it)?

July 28, 2019
What is resilience (and why do you need it)?

What is resilience? Resilience is the ability to be able to cope with or navigate your way through difficulties and crisis. It essentially means you’re able to either bounce after a crisis or adapt to new circumstances. Resilient people are able to understand what their body and mental state need and put in processes or modify their behaviour accordingly. Why is resilience so important? It’s a fact of…

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How to practice gratitude

May 6, 2019
how to practice gratitude

Gratitude practice changed my life I’ve previously about how gratitude practice changed my life. It turned me from perpetually being a ‘grey sky thinker’ to seeing the positives in life. I had gone through life feeling like the odds were stacked against me.  Good fortune and luck were things that happened to other people. I was great at seeing the negatives in any situation which helped back up…

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How to stop being a victim and take responsibility for your own life

April 22, 2019
Stop being a victim and take responsibility for your own life

Stop being a victim Confession time: I was the world’s biggest victim. I felt everything was stacked against me. The reason why my relationships failed? That was down to my turbulent childhood and not having good role models. Why I never got promoted at work? That was because no one appreciated my efforts. If someone spoke down to me, well, that was because there was something about me…

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Why self-doubt isn’t always a bad thing: turning our negative patterns around

April 15, 2019
why self-doubt isn't always a bad thing

It might seem bizarre that I’m writing about why self-doubt isn’t always a bad thing given that it’s plagued me my whole life. Self-doubt has affected my decision-making, stopped me from pursuing potential opportunities and held me back no end. I spend a considerable amount of time second-guessing myself and overthinking to the point that it can be exhausting. I’d like to give you a happy ending here…

self-care

Self-care practices and how to implement them

March 26, 2019
self-care practices and how to implement them

What is self-care? Self-care is the practice of ensuring we are looking after ourselves physically and emotionally. This helps us navigate through life easier. Whilst the self-care phrase has been mocked for just being about candles and baths (both of which I love); it is fundamentally important to make sure we are giving ourselves what we need. Stresses about our families, finances, work all play on our minds.…

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Are you suffering from imposter syndrome?

March 17, 2019
are you suffering from impostor syndrome?

A few years ago I got promoted at work. Despite being more than qualified, I spent the first year waiting to be pulled into a meeting room and told, ‘we’ve made a terrible mistake’. I lived in a state of panic and regardless of any positive feedback, I still couldn’t relax and enjoy my new role. My experience is not uncommon. I’ve heard of chief executives googling how…

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Retraining your neural pathways (and what that actually means)

March 5, 2019

What are neural pathways? Our nervous system consists of neurons (nerve cells) that transmit nerve signals or messages to and from the brain. The path which this information travels along is called a neural pathway. Our neural pathways are developed from childhood. As a baby, we learn to smile through our parents or caregivers smiling at us. We learn not to touch a hot pan from being burnt…

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The pre-mortem technique (and how I use it on my overthinking brain)

February 17, 2019
The pre-mortem technique and how I use it on my overthinking brain

I recently went on a leadership training course with work. Admittedly, we did one exerciseabout how to evacuate a village, but the rest of the time was spent on management skills and decision-making abilities. This is where I learnt the pre-mortem technique. What is a pre-mortem? A pre-mortem is opposite of a post-mortem – where you look to see what went wrong after the event. With a post-mortem…

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Why technology is making us less productive

January 22, 2019
technology making us less productive

Is always being on affecting productivity? I got my first job in communications back in 2001. I worked hard, no doubt moaned about my long hours, but once I left work, that was it. I couldn’t physically do any more work. I couldn’t answer emails because I didn’t have WiFi at home and regardless, there wasn’t the technology to log in remotely. Our mobile phones only made phone…

wellbeing

Set boundaries with 7 simple steps

January 16, 2019

Boundaries are fundamental when it comes to taking care of ourselves. They enable us to recognise what we need and develop the right techniques and language to achieve them. Boundaries help us create less stressful lives, better physical wellbeing and healthy respectful relationships. For some people, setting boundaries is a skill they learn growing up. They have seen adults articulate and set boundaries and understand they are a…

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Setting intentions with kindness

December 22, 2018

It’s time for self-talk with kindness At the beginning of the year, I wrote a post about setting intentions. They were areas I wanted to achieve, not actual resolutions per se, but a kinder, intentional approach that I would use as a focus and not beat myself up about. Reader, I lied. I did everything I said I wouldn’t . I’ve been writing my resolutions/intentions for years now.…

wellbeing

How to leave the cult of busyness

September 30, 2018

being busy and the cult of busyness I look at friends who left homes and jobs in London to set up lives elsewhere and think how well they seem. Their skin looks brighter, their stress lines faded away and I think to myself, it’s because they’re not so busy anymore. I often fantasise about spending a week at a health camp (somewhere abroad obviously) and having five nights…

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September: the start of a new year?

September 13, 2018
change when you don't like change

There is something about September which feels like the start of a new year. I start re-evaluating what I want from life and feel more energetic and purposeful. I’ve always attributed this to the fact that the new school year starts in September in the UK. The last days of summer were spent buying new school shoes and pencil cases preparing for the year ahead. We had new…

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Learning to be brave

May 8, 2018
Learning to be brave

Being brave At the beginning of the year, I thought about changes I wanted to make in my life and to stop letting fear stand in my way. I realised I was going to need to start becoming brave if I was going to live a more authentic life. Part of transitioning from my 20s into my 30s and beyond has been to recognise that actions have consequences and…

wellbeing

Spring clean your life

April 21, 2018
spring clean your life

The term ‘spring clean’ comes from the days when our homes were heated by fires. People would spring clean and air their homes in the warmer months to clean it of all the soot and grime that had accumulated when the weather was colder. These days, we rely on much more modern methods to heat our homes – but there is still something about the first sunny day…

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Why I practice gratitude

April 11, 2018
why I practice gratitude

I first started my gratitude practice about five years ago. I’d got stuck in a bit of rut, tended to focus on the negative and had a blamey attitude. I got frustrated easily and often felt like the world was conspiring against me. I decided to keep a gratitude diary and each morning wrote down ten things that were making me happy and the reasons why. It completely…

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Six ways to help step out of your comfort zone

April 3, 2018

“What if I Fall, Oh but my darling what if you fly.” – Erin Hanson Comfort zones can be magical places keeping us safe and secure. There are times though when we know we’re capable of more and it’s time to step out and reach our potential. How to move out of your comfort zone. Think about what would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail. It’s easy to dismiss…

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Letting go of limiting beliefs

March 31, 2018

After my Dad died, it hit me how life was short and I shouldn’t let anything stop me from living my dreams. My Dad had retired at 55 and spent the next 12 years of his life working as a walking guide across Europe. He took a chance – admittedly one with a final salary pension – and lived the rest of his days doing something he loved.…

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The power of daydreaming

March 28, 2018

“Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” Edgar Allan Poe I’ve always been a daydreamer. Time passes me by before I startle realising that I’ve been lost in my own thoughts. I daydream about all sorts of things. I have ideas about the future and how conversations might go. I think about my dream house and how…